Sunday, February 17, 2013

Grown boys (trust me, not men)

Huuuuuuge pet peeve. Actually beyond a pet peeve. I despise it! A grown ass man that acts like a kid.

Everyone knows one. Whether its your girlfriend who's dating one, your friend, a family member, we all know at least one!  It has got to be the most unattractive thing to me.

I am fortunate enough to not have any family members like that, but I know a few through other people.

Being a man is about having respect for yourself as well as others. Taking responsibility for yourself. Not blaming others for your shortcomings. You know, some of the same basics that make a woman a true woman. Its about BEING responsible.  No one is perfect, however there must be signs of genuine effort.

When I am single, and seeking out a better half, there are several requirements. Its kinda strange however because even though I have certain requirements, these things just automatically come with the type of men I associate with.  Basically saying, I don't have to put much effort into finding it.  These things are a job, car, place of their own or with a roommate (no baby mommas or girl living there).  Those are very basic. I'm about to be 33. I don't see any reason a man In my age range should have any less.

If you settle for less in a man, you end up with a damn kid! who wants that?  You end up with extra stress, headaches,  and heartache. Love is hard enough without that bullshit. Am I right? Yes!

Bottom line is, women need to have more respect for themselves and their needs. Myself included, just not in this particular area. No sweetie,  your not driving my car, I'm not your fool baby. Grow the hell up and get a car! Job! whatever the case may be.

We as woman are expected to be independent,  strong, perfect ladies, cooks, sex goddesses and not waiver. All for who again? For a man who can't hold down a job or have shit for himself? So, again, balance! Know your worth!

Ladies, be that independent woman yes. Do your thing. Make sure you have someone bringing the same things to the table!

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